Love is great, fun, amazing and very interesting and same goes to marriage. But we often see marriages collapse within weeks and months of been married despite the fact that the couples involved are those we see as the perfect couples, with love all around, affection blowing everywhere and we are all filled with envy to have a relationship like theirs.
But when their marriages collapse we never stop asking ourselves what went wrong, or what could have happened to them.
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Below are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
1. Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
2. Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
3. Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
4. Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
5. Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
6. Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7. Will there be a television in the bedroom?
8. Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
9. Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
10. Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11. Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12. What does my family do that annoys you?
13. Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
14. If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
15. Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
So if you’re in a relationship and you and your partner are getting to that point where marriage is next you want to make sure you ask yourselves these questions first, then decide between each other what is and what is not and if you’re able to reach a compromise, be assured that you both are in a great place together.
Article From : NewYork Times