22 Years Gone! Feels Like Yesterday Brother Dearest! Requiescat In Pace!

No matter how long a loved one has been gone, there is still a void left in the hearts of those he left behind.

No matter how old a child is, NO mother prays to bury her own child.

However, there are some things we cannot control. The inevitable end of human life is death. The time, is when we all do not know. The pain that comes with it is something we many times, cannot handle.

However, when we are faced with a loss like this, we take solace as Christians that one day, we will meet to part no more.

On behalf of my (your) family and the Parishioners of St. Lawrence Catholic Church Lasokun, Ibadan, stay strong Fr. Francis Uchechukwu Onugha.. Our prayers are with Mama and the entire Onugha Family. We do love you very much Fada Kosimuch.

Below is a write-up by Rev. Fr. Francis Onugha two years ago.

YOU ARE 20 YEARS OLD IN HEAVEN TODAY LATE REV. FR. INNOCENT ONUGHA. Just as there are two sides to a coin, so also LIFE has got two sides. As we are waking up in Nigeria, some are just going to bed in some other parts of the world. As some are making their entrance into the world, some are heading to the exit door. As some are gaining admission into school, some are graduating out of school. As some are being discharged from the hospitals, some are being admitted. Everyday, people celebrate one success or the other, so also people mourn for their failures on a daily basis. We may call it the paradox of life or better still; THERE IS TIME FOR EVERYTHING as in Ecclesiates (3:1-8).

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Phot Credit: Google

This day, 20 YEARS AGO (18TH NOV,1995) around 2pm, my family was thrown into total confusion, devastation, loneliness, darkness, misery, agony and tears because OUR SON AND BROTHER, REV. FR. INNOCENT ONYINYECHUKWU ONUGHA died at the age of 34 years after being a Priest for just six years.

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Phot Credit: tumblr

His death launched us into another mode of reflection upon death & life. It was just as if we have never heard or known that people die. Grief stricken and dumbfounded, we, the family, friends and Parishioners of St. Patrick Bashorun wailed and bathed the earth with tears running from our eyes, but the fountain of tears within us could not bring him back to life.

Then, we accepted our fate that ‘FADA KOSI MUCH’ was gone forever from us! His departure for sure, created an irreplaceable vacuum. We didn’t know our mother would survive his death till today because she LOVED HER SON SO SO MUCH. The one who made her to be addressed as MAMA FATHER…!

869edef63eaa33e69608931aebdeacc0 I didn’t know I would finish my education since I was staying with him and he was sponsoring my education. However, his death challenged me, and I vowed within me to work very hard and succeed. I really really struggled, even though some people made life very difficult for me, I had to go to his grave at Oke Are Minor Seminary severally to cry and ask him to help me, and INDEED HE HELPED WITH HIS INTERCESSION.

Today, by the Grace of God, my becoming a priest did not replace him, but a consolation to my Mother as well as Fr. Inno’s friends and well-wishers.

I decided to keep his memory and name alive by answering his name ‘FADA KOSI MUCH JNR’. But today, we are no longer mourning rather we are celebrating A SAINT IN HEAVEN.


On behalf of the ONUGHAS’ FAMILY, I wish to thank all and sundry who have been there for us all these years. God bless you!

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Réquiem ætérnam dona eis, Dómine,
et lux perpétua lúceat eis.
Requiéscant in pace. Amen.

About the Author: Rev. Fr. Francis Onugha is the Parish Priest of St. Lawrence Catholic Church, Lasokun, Apata, Ibadan in Nigeria. He is an avid preacher who passes God’s messages across with practical examples we see in our daily lives. He writes his Daily Chewing Stick to spread God’s word electronically to all.

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