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A Lesson For Women – Sharing Private Life On Social Media.

A Lesson For Women – Sharing Private Life On Social Media.

WATCH OUT FOR WHAT YOU SHARE ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

Interesting! A HUGE lesson to ALL, especially LADIES, who go on social media to write their life histories!

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You go on Facebook AND update your Facebook status with your personal lives, especially when having issues with others!

You join Social Media Groups and put your life history on there (for others to learn you say).

Have you EVER thought and asked yourself – WHY DON’T THE SO-CALLED ADMINS AND GROUP OWNERS SHARE THEIR DEEPEST STORIES? Or you think their lives are perfect? LOL! Trust me, they have the deepest and baddest (permit the use of the word) stories to share! Azzin (Mojite’s azzin comes in again!), if you are privy to their REAL world, you will be the one consoling them! NO ONE has it perfect! NO ONE!

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Instead of going on social media, why not just open a Lifetime Channel of your own and do just that? I am sure Oprah Winfrey will gladly give you a slot on OWN! SMH!!!

Oh! You are sharing so that others won’t experience same? LIE!!!

Most of you are sharing due to your insecurities and yearn for cheap popularity! Facebook AIN’T a therapy page (in my American accent!) Get a life before you end up like her! Yes, she shared waaaay too much! I did not know about her till she came missing, and I saw posts from her shared on Facebook.

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True, her sharing her story “will hopefully” help in getting justice for whoever is behind her death (if that will ever happen in my beloved Country Nigeria!); however, there are better ways to have done this!

Last picture she uploaded on her "road trip" the day she got missing. Source: Facebook

Last picture she uploaded on her “road trip” the day she got missing. Source: Facebook

There is a good probability that “trusted” friends on her page, and in the groups she belonged to, where she had a “safe haven” betrayed her. Now, my question is: WHAT DID THESE GROUPS DO TO HELP FIND HER? WHAT HAVE THEY DONE SINCE SHE WAS DETECTED MISSING? I DID NOT SEE ANY GROUP OF WOMEN HOLDING PLACARDS ON CHARITY AIYEDOGBON aka Deepdeal Chacha Dehammer on Facebook! Hmmmm!!! Really makes me wonder what the meaning of “sisterhood” truly is! #Reallywondering

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I advised two women about similar attitude once…… (Once is enough for the wise!)….. The next thing I noticed was they stopped communicating 😁 as if being in communication with them matters!

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Iiiiiisssh!!! Is your laif and not my laif na! – in my Jenifa’s accent! Kontinu! Share on jare!

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You come on Facebook discussing your relationship, your child(ren)’s success (which by the way, if your child(ren) attend(s) a public school in the U.S of A, every child gets all these certificates ALL the time, so stop being silly!), your terrible in-laws, rifts with used-to-be-friends? I pity you! Again, kontinu!

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Do you think we all have life made so good? Trust me, EVERYONE has some demons they are fighting in their lives, but the wise ones decide to keep their PRIVATE lives PRIVATE!

For those that wonder: No, The BEST and WORST parts of my life do NOT make it to Social Media! #Enoughsaid

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Below is an article (with screenshot inserted) written on Facebook by Malik Shabbazz Abdulmalik, which was shared by a Facebook friend this morning…..

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Charity Aiyedogbon married to David Shola Aiyedogbon found dead?!!!!

The past one month, I have followed closely the story of this spirited soulful lady.

Mother of 4 and she put in 16 years of her life into a marriage. Only to be booted out because of another woman.

Met her a couple of times , I think twice or so but we hardly chatted much. I am not one to waste time in dispensing advice about certain things.

Don’t go back begging and don’t talk much about your strategy . These were the only two advices I had for her.

Then one morning , I wake to a message that she’s missing.

I looked at her last update and noticed the change in writing style and I quickly told the friend that sent the message that she’s not the one writing. It’s easy to spot such things. But then I was incapacitated because the only way to snoop further was to get the telephone number of Mr David Shola Aiyedogbon. A state house staff and a millionaire . Okene born and without any prejudice- he’s a beast of a man. The type of love to torture till he dies.

Charity was looking forwards to attending her daughter’s wedding but alas her plans didn’t come through because she was found body mangled and dismembered and made to look like it was a ritual killing. Hell No! It wasn’t ! David and Charity aka ChaCha Deepdeal De Hammer as she’s popularly known by her close friends in their group has been having a running battle since their separation.

She wanted a share of the properties they built together. David refused. And then came threats. And next she goes missing and then found dead while her new lover is being tortured in a police cell for something he doesn’t know about and David is having a good laugh having put her away . His secrets are covered and all her notes and documentary on his fraudulent dealings deleted. Nothing to tie him to the gruesome murder.

For me, it’s a sad event. But then what can be done. Only justice can be sought but then how?

Some how I feel like I should see her again and tell her again to stay away from groups.

Whoever intimated David her plans to report him to the authorities is a member of their group and she is sleeping with him now and has been all along while she was telling her women group what she passed through and what she intended to do to extract justice back .

I watched and watched and waited to see if something would be done but everyone you asked had one thing only to say; “David is a powerful man and he has money”. And so what? Having money and power doesn’t mean you go out there killing and maiming people.

*truth is my thoughts are not so collected now because I had hoped against hope that she’d be found alive*💔

She’s gone and she isn’t coming back anymore.

A life gone just like that.

My heart goes out to all those women who men like me have to pass through all sorts of torture just because they are married . No marriage is worth your life please!

None at all! And if you manage to get out, don’t bother about looking for what to take back. Eventually their eyes clear . Trust me it does. When they say they want to go, don’t argue, just get up and dust yourself and go!

Rest in Peace Charity ! David will get what’s coming to him. – as written by Malik Shabbazz Abdulmalik

Click on this link to read the renowned lawyer, Emeka Ugwuonye’s posts in The Due Process Advocates (DPA) Facebook Page.

Now, I know she was fighting for what she FELT was her right, but let me ask a question here:

“All the properties she was fighting for, were/are they worth her life??? Hmmmm!!! She should have been glad to have gotten out alive, NO MARRIAGE IS WORTH YOUR LIFE!

Yes, before you start, I know what I would have done in her situation – getting on social media and narrating stories that could, and will affect my life and my children’s future is definitely NOT one of it!!! Such a promising lady in her mid-fourties……. her life cut so short!

May God rest her soul. Amen.

Click here to go to the “Find Deepdeal Chacha Dehammer Facebook Page” set up when she was detected to be missing. 

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Now, this page has ONLY 2,625 Likes as at 9:25am on June 25, 2016! Where are ALL the over 150,000 ladies on some of the Facebook groups she belonged to?

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Hmmmmm!! You still don’t get it? Put your life on Social media, get all the popularity you think you can get, when something terrible happens to your ass (God forbid), Y’ALL ON YA OWN HOMEGURL! (in my American Accent).

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Unfortunately, NONE of your cheerleaders want to die for your cause!

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May God grant her eternal rest. Amen.

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About VTI©

Valentina is a self motivated mother who has always committed herself to the service of humanity. In her quest to help in this wise, she has tales of personal experiences. Her challenges and successes which are always ongoing, and she'll be sharing with you without reserve. - Olusegun Idowu

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