Many a times we sit down and think of our relationships – how to make it work, how to make it last, how to enjoy every bit of it, and of course is it right for us? I had to do that recently, and I had to break up my last relationship that lasted well over two decades!
Well, as the years went by, our relationship just was not working for me! I knew it deep within me, and I actually tried breaking up a couple of times but always went back! I was not me! I was not really happy, that even my skin was paying for it. Acne joined the team. If you know me very well, you know I love to be no-one else but me, and I love to be very happy! Life is too short to be anything but happy I always say.
So came one cold morning, I had to make that decision. It was tough! Imagine letting go of what you are used to – moving from a familiar environment to an unknown place. Something new, something strange, but at the back of my mind, I had to do it!
Many close to me thought I was silly! Are you sure you want to do that? I was asked by several loved ones. Think very well about it. Well, I knew I had to do it! It’s been two years I got into this new relationship, and I am happy to tell you all, I did make the best decision. I have peace of mind, I am happy, and my skin even shows it – no more acne. Now I sleep without guilt of cheating in my relationship – I am 150% committed to my new found love – My natural hair!
I just got tired of all the chemicals infused into my body through my scalp. I decided to have a sincere relationship with my hair! A relationship no one else could have with my own hair but me. I decided to break-up with all forms of chemicals and heat. The beginning was the toughest – because of my hair texture (soft and curly), I did not know what to do with it initially, and thank God for some friends and family members who tried to convince me otherwise, I stuck to it! Hahahahaaaa! If you know me very well, I do not conform to others’ standards. I ask myself “how would what I am being told affect me?” My inner response to that question determines the path I will thread.
Making the decision to transition back to my natural hair was a personal decision that I made for my hair! It was not easy, but it is one of the best health decisions I am definitely not going to regret – God help me!
Not only is it healthy, it is very convenient, lots of fun and definitely comes with endless possibilities depending on how creative one wants to be.
I have thought about it over the years and even tried the BC (big chop) initially in 2007, but had to revert back to wigs because one, I did not like the look – made my face long, and secondly, my son as well as my oldest brother were not happy with it and my late dad could not stand a bald headed girl! LOL.
However, ever since I decided to stick to it, I have never been more content. I must confess at a point last year, I told a friend – Busola D. who is also a naturalist that I was going to give up, and put the relaxer back in, and I remember her expression as she uttered the words: “Nooooooo, please don’t!” You would think it was her hair, you would think she had an investment in my hair, but you know what? I appreciate that – and I thank God I listened to her.
It has been a nice journey so far. Stick with us on this page as we bring to you, ideas on how you can have a wonderful relationship with your tresses. – VTI©