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Know someone going through a break-up? What NOT to say!

Yes! I wrote HUSH!….meaning, SEAL your lips…..SHUT UP if you do NOT have something better to say to someone going through a break-up or divorce! Seriously, there are some comments best left UNSAID! If you can not think of anything nice or calming to say to someone going through such an ordeal; just do us all a favour – KEEP QUIET!!! It’s really NOT that tough is it? Well, I know for some it is, BUT when you have that urge to just use your God-given talent, remember what you are reading here! Thank you in advance!

I am sorry to say, but I can’t just help but give you a wake-up call……. it’s better you think well and put yourself in the person’s position (I can hear “God forbid” and I really forbid it for you too), before you utter a word! It happened to someone I know and I could not help but remind her what she said to another friend just two years prior, then she felt the pinch!

Birogs went on the search for some real life nosy questions people do ask, and Glamour was quick to come to the rescue. Here we go:

“Good thing you two never had kids together!”
“Sure, co-parenting after our divorce would have been tough, but we would have figured it out. Little did this person know that I had suffered a miscarriage while married—and divorced or not, I don’t think anyone is ever relieved about that.” —Sarah, 30

“I kind of saw it coming.”
“This was seriously the reaction from a woman I only see a few times a year when I told her the news. She analyzed my relationship and had come up with her own conclusion of what was going on. My ex-husband and I never fought around her or went running to her for advice, so it’s not like she could have really known the inner workings of our marriage. Instead, she took it upon herself to come to some conclusion against us. She may as well have taken over-under bets.” —Theresa, 32

“Oh my God! Tell me everything.”
“Some not-so-close friends wanted to talk about where the relationship went wrong. When I declined to give more information, a few of them were actually offended, like they felt entitled to know the nitty gritty of my failed marriage.” —Christine, 33

“Did someone cheat?”
“This is so none of your business, unless you’re one of my best friends—and if you are, you already know the answer to the question. There is just no situation where this is ever okay to ask—I couldn’t believe people I only sort of know would have the nerve to bring it up.” —Annie, 29

“Do you think you’ll get married again?”
“Someone asked me that before we had even signed the papers. At that point, I didn’t know if I’d get out of the marriage with a place to live, let alone what was in store for me down the road. Her question just added more pressure to an already emotional and draining experience.” —Kathryn, 34

“Aww, I really liked him.”
“I’m glad my college roommate, who lived five states away and barely even knew my ex, thought he was such a good guy. She never had to live with him, and she definitely didn’t know the ins and outs of what I had put up with in the relationship. Her reaction really hurt. I needed support, not someone to talk about how much she like the guy I was no longer married to.” —Carly, 33

“You should have filed years ago!”
“Wow, tell me how you really feel! Or actually, don’t. This person basically implied that I had wasted years trying to make my marriage work.” —Danielle, 33

Hmmmmm!!! Really? Okay! If you happen to be one of those that ask these annoying questions. PLEASE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, BE A BIT SENSITIVE.

Thank YOU!

 

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Valentina is a self motivated mother who has always committed herself to the service of humanity. In her quest to help in this wise, she has tales of personal experiences. Her challenges and successes which are always ongoing, and she'll be sharing with you without reserve. - Olusegun Idowu

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