An open letter to a sis, a friend – Anino Uku-Ijewere.

Dearest sis,

I can only send words of prayers to you at this very “strong” time. I know I have said a lot to you already. Sometimes I contradict myself. I say: “Be strong sis.” Then I also say: “Cry if you feel like.” Hmmmm! Anino, I personally know it is NOT easy. No matter how you feel, I ask that you draw strength from God, those adorable blessings of yours – Alexander and Michael Jnr, family, and friends.

You are a very special person with a free spirit. Like Elovia describes you: “She’s a cool chic, down-to-earth.” Like Nana said: “Anino is not a daughter-in-law but a daughter. My joy is that she is well-loved by everyone in the family, so it’s not an issue with in-laws. Infact, she’s home from home” – on this note, I say a big thanks to the Asumah and Ijewere families. May God console each and every one. Amen.

Anino, I remember a “wrap-story” and you respected Sifo all the way when it came to sharing your wrap-pictures. You do not know what that meant to many like me. As much as he supported your every step in your business, you never took it for granted. That, is love. Respect in a relationship is love.

My “oyinbo” as I fondly call you, Sifo is in a better place – I am sure you have heard that way too many times. Probably heard it sometimes and you feel like slapping whoever said it. Better place for real? But you know what? As Christians, we take consolation in the words of God and accept that he is.

As you go along in this new path, questions would come sis. As you go along, you will get to many-a-stops that would make you ask some questions. Sometimes, you just want to be alone so you can think without being interrupted or cry without taking anyone else down with you. Grief has stages sis. TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED. Sometimes, memories of him would make you laugh aloud to yourself that people around you would wonder if you are okay. You might even ask yourself if you are okay! Yes, you are. Remember: STAGES, STAGES, and STAGES! Go through them. It’s part of the healing process. Memories of him will keep you going.

One thing though: “Do not expect everyone to understand your journey most especially if they have never had to walk in your path sis – and I tell you, you are the ONLY one who has ever walked in Anino’s path. One thing Anino, no matter how you feel, get up, show up, keep moving, and NEVER give up! Let this new stage strengthen you sis. You owe it to Alexander, you owe it to Michael Jr, you owe it to Sifo, and you owe it to yourself! See, you came last here – because I know how much you care about those three.

You feel like talking in the middle of the night? Pick up the phone, call and wake people up! Now, this is not a joke! Wake loved ones up! Do not go it alone. Wake Mrs. Sho up! Wake Nana up! Wake me up! I know there are a lot of people that would volunteer to take your calls. That’s how good you have it sis.

I want you to take consolation that he was fondly and overwhelmingly loved by many and of course by God.

Alexander and Michael Jnr will get to higher places daddy never got to in Jesus mighty name. You shall live without teeth to see them excel in all they do in Jesus mighty name. They shall continue to be a source of joy to you and the world at large sis. You shall not cry over them in Jesus mighty name. Amen. They now have their own “personal” angel in Heaven.

an3A therapy for them – I have Dimples do this once in a while especially on special days after my aunty suggested it and it has helped him a lot: Let them release balloons to the sky and watch daddy catch the balloons one at a time. It would help you too sis. Offer Masses for him as often as you like. I will do same here.

Eternal rest grant unto Michael Usifo Olumide Ijewere O Lord, and let Your perpetual light shine upon hm. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.


So long Sifo! Requiescat in Pace.


About VTI©

Valentina is a self motivated mother who has always committed herself to the service of humanity. In her quest to help in this wise, she has tales of personal experiences. Her challenges and successes which are always ongoing, and she'll be sharing with you without reserve. - Olusegun Idowu


  1. I have never met you sis, but my heart goes out to you, and I only have these to say; It will get better…with time, you will grow stronger…with time, and you will smile again….with time. May the love you shared tide you through this difficult period, and may you find the strength to accept this as God’s will. It is well….

  2. May his soul rest in perfect peace and may God comforts those he left behind

  3. Dear Anino, my heart and prayers are with you at dis trying period. May the good lord continue to stregthen you and yours now and always. He knows best and will never give us a cross too heavy to bear. God bless u. RIP Sifo.

  4. Am so sorry about your loss. What can one say to comfort you? I pray that God will strengthen you as you mourn your husband. The bible says “Blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted.” This will be true for you as you mourn him. The Lord will be with you and your children. May his soul rest in perfect peace!

  5. Andrew Etsetowaghan

    may his gentle soul rest in peace……….

  6. viviannee Egooyibo

    May his soul rip. So touching n sad. May God uphold n keep Amino strong by His grace n mercy ijn.

  7. Anino, I can’t say I understand how you feel; I can only imagine it. But be consoled, my dear. Be consoled that Sifo is in a better place; be consoled by the fun memories you shared; be consoled by the lovely kids he has left for you to nurture; be consoled by the wonderful family, in-laws and friends surrounding you; be consoled my sister. It will be well in Jesus name. Amen

  8. May his soul rest in peace, amen. The words that Roli has carefully selected for you Anino are true. To support them, we shall continue to bear you up in prayer. God shall supply you with grace to carry on and fill your heart with the peace that no one else will ever comprehend. Amen.

  9. Sis,

    U can wake me up 2. Love is Alive always. It will always surround u all.

    God’s Solace.

    Eternal Rest Don papi!!! Love never dies.

  10. I feel your pain sis, my mom was in your situation decades back, young woman in her 30s, widowed and with 6 children!. It was tough but God saw her through. God almighty is still the same, husband to widows and Father to fatherless. He shall help you right on time.

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